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  1. said:

    i enjoyed this post – thank you.

    August 27, 2013
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  2. Anonymous said:

    Oh, thanks, Lucky Mom – I’m crying again, remembering how hard it was to walk out of my son’s dorm room last week. Yes, he’ll figure it all out, but part of me – a big part – didn’t want him to have to.

    August 27, 2013
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    • Sorry, Anonymous. You should see the pile of kleenex in the garbage can next to me right now. But, I think this might mark the end of my crying. By now, he’s having the time of his life!

      August 27, 2013
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  3. Jodi said:

    I was doing okay, reading your words, until I played the song .. and then the tears came. My oldest will be leaving for college in a few weeks; he’s turned out to be such a great kid, and I know he will have the time of his life, but it’s hard to think about. I keep telling myself that this was the goal, and he is so ready …

    August 27, 2013
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    • You’ve got your head in the right place, Jodi. This was always the goal. Indulge your feelings when it’s happening, then turn your thoughts to him. And wish him Good Riddance.

      August 27, 2013
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      • Jodi said:

        Oh, thank you. I read somewhere recently that while it’s hard to have them leave, the summer leading up to college is stressful because they can be a royal pain in the neck. That has been our experience (to a degree), so it’s a combination of good riddance! and Good Riddance. Either way, it’s all good …

        August 27, 2013
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          • Jodi said:

            I will! Now, any advice on what to do with a 15 year old girl that is going on 24 going on 3? Sigh… :>)

            August 27, 2013
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  4. Anonymous said:

    Ok LIsha ,this is the first time I have cried since I dropped Brandon off last Thursday.

    August 27, 2013
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    • Sorry, my not-so-anonymous friend. But they are going to have the time of their lives, aren’t they? :-)

      August 27, 2013
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    • I hope I didn’t make it sound too sad. When my firstborn went to college, I reminded myself that if I was sad, it meant I was thinking of myself. He was having the time of his life.

      August 28, 2013
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  5. said:

    It makes me anxious for you! I was a wreck just adjusting to the middle school this year. I fear I will never be as cool as you just made yourself!!:)

    August 27, 2013
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  6. Oh the tug on my heart strings. Good for you for handling it all so well. You sound like a great Momma. But, yes, there is always more we could say…

    August 28, 2013
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    • It’s definitely a heart-tugging experience. And I think it would be sadder if I hadn’t felt this way.

      August 28, 2013
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  7. I am absolutely crying. My oldest starts 8th grade this year, but I can’t believe it will be high school next year and then…well…I’ll be feeling this way soon enough. So much to say and probably half of it will be met with “yeah, okay mom…” (insert eyeroll). So bittersweet. Well written, Mama. I felt it in my heart the whole way.

    August 28, 2013
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    • My youngest started 8th grade last week, so I’m in that place, too. :-) And if they’re rolling their eyes when you speak, it means they heard you. And if you weren’t sounding like a complete idiot to them, you wouldn’t be doing it right.

      Thanks for stopping by, elleroy!

      August 29, 2013
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  8. said:

    I cannot even begin to imagine sending one off to college–though I’ve only got 6 short years. I imagine it always feels like there will never be enough time……

    August 28, 2013
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    • Robbie, I believe you’re right. If I’d had 5 more years, I still couldn’t have said it all. Now I’ve got to trust that I’ve given him the roots he needed when he was with me, and that his wings are strong enough to carry him from here.

      August 29, 2013
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    • No, I’m pretty sure he just wanted me to leave. :-) But we had our moment later that day. Later that day I texted him the link to the song linked to the post (Good Riddance by GreenDay), and wished him good riddance. That’s probably when he had his tears, if he had them at all. But I know my boy loves me, and I know that it’s time for him to fly.

      August 29, 2013
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  9. said:

    I’m thinking that as hard it must be to have a child leave home, it has got to be be better than having one that won’t leave home. But I don’t have any first-hand knowledge, so can’t know for sure. Nice post.

    August 28, 2013
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    • Thanks for the kind words, Shmoo. I’ve known for a long time that my job was to prepare him for that day, but that didn’t make it any easier.

      August 29, 2013
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  10. said:

    WE are taking our eldest to college on Friday. Fortunately I have his high maintenance sister to come back home to. She’s been waiting 14 years to get to be the only child…..

    August 28, 2013
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    • Meg, my youngest has waited 13 years for that privilege! But he also knows he now gets their share of chores, too. It’s been almost a week, and he’s slowly creeping into their bedrooms, sprawling out, having the entire upstairs to himself. :-)

      August 29, 2013
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  11. All the trials that we endure as parents seem to me to be more stepping stones for the parents to let the child go, rather than for the child to take wing. As my oldest is only 8, I hope I am ready when the time comes for her to take flight.

    August 28, 2013
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    • Oh, absolutely! It was definitely harder for mom and dad than for the boy! But I’ve known all along that I only had them for a short time. I just didn’t realize how quickly that time would fly. Cliche, I know.

      I visited your site, that’s quite a crew you have there! Thanks for stopping by here. :-)

      August 29, 2013
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  12. I can’t even imagine how it feels, sending a kid off to college. Sending you lots of smiles :)

    August 29, 2013
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    • Thanks, Samantha! It’s been almost a week, and my tears are all dried up. I’ve seen a few glimpses of him on his school’s Facebook page, all smiling and happy. And I know he’s where he wants to be. He’s actually my second one to go away, but he’s a bit further away than his brother, and out of state. While the physical distance isn’t that much further, it feels very far away. Anywho… I’m doing fine now. And so is he.

      August 29, 2013
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  13. I hope life at college has gotten off to a good start for your son.

    August 29, 2013
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    • It has! We’ve texted a few times, and I found a few smiling photos of him on the school’s Facebook page. He looks all happy and grown up, just like he’s supposed to!

      August 29, 2013
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  14. said:

    Seems like those few extra hours really did the trick. Even though there was more to say, you didn’t need to. He knows anyway. I have many years until my boys leave, but I’m already dreading the moment. You were very brave and strong, momma. Good job.

    August 29, 2013
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    • Thanks, Misty. I am so grateful I got to ride with him. Yes, he knows. Evidently he was actually listening to what I was saying while he was rolling his eyes at me. Go figure.

      August 29, 2013
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  15. said:

    Such a wonderful post. I know its hard to let go but he is going to make some lifelong friends and memories there. College will see the birth of stories that will be repeated at every reunion, of pranks that will still bring tears to his eyes 20 years from now, girlfriends he will look back at fondly. It might even be where he meets his bestman. The place he will long to go back when he settles down with a job. I look back at college so fondly and as good as life is now, I’d go back in a heartbeat..:)

    August 29, 2013
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    • Your vision is exactly what I hope his experience turns out to be. He has been there a month now, and he’s having the time of his life. Just like I hoped. :-) Thanks for stopping by, beingnenne!

      September 19, 2013
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    • Thank you, ma’am! As an over-thinker, I had a lot of pondering this time on how to do it better.

      September 19, 2013
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  16. nataliedeyoung said:

    Aw, saying goodbye is so hard! I can imagine the fullness of what you must be feeling.

    August 29, 2013
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    • My stomach was full of butterflies, my eyes were full of tears, and my heart was full of pride. A good thing by every measure. Thank you for stopping by.

      September 19, 2013
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  17. dberonilla said:

    I really enjoyed this! There are so many things I want to tell the beautiful little people I have created, but I bet those things multiply by 100 when those little people become BIG people!
    College is such a huge step, and I hope it is a great experience… for both of you!

    August 29, 2013
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    • You tell them every day, with words and actions. And I found out that they really are listening, even when they don’t want to be. Blessings to you and your little ones.

      September 19, 2013
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  18. Beautiful post. Even though it’s been more than a few years since my first went off to university, you brought back all the emotions of that day, making it feel like yesterday, not 10 years ago!
    W.

    August 30, 2013
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    • Thanks, W! I can imagine you’ll remember that day forever, just as I will. Thank you for the kind words.

      September 19, 2013
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  19. It is such a surreal experience dropping our kids off at college and driving away, isn’t it? My oldest has already graduated but I remember it like it was yesterday.

    September 9, 2013
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    • It is surreal. My own drop-off experience as the daughter came flooding back to me, juxtaposing itself to being the mother doing the dropping off. I’m sure when the next one heads off it’ll be just as surreal.

      September 19, 2013
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  20. said:

    Aw, Lisha. Lovely post. My oldest is in second grade and I know college is many years away. But damn, reading this made it seem that much closer. I can picture her as an 18yo, going to college, leaving her at her dorm… *sniff*

    September 18, 2013
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    • Every year goes a little faster than the one before it, Honest Mom. I swear this kid was just making rain catchers in Cub Scouts, now he’s all grown up and lives in another state. You’ve got time to get yourself ready if you start now!

      September 19, 2013
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  21. said:

    This is such a good reminder to enjoy my boys while I still have them under my roof. Time just speeds by, and someday my house won’t be filled with stinky socks and video games. Great post.

    September 27, 2013
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    • It does go fast. But remember, your job is to prepare them for adulthood, and their own independent life. You need to be as ready as them when that day comes.

      October 15, 2013
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  22. […] bore a faint resemblance to the son I dropped off at college a few months ago. But so much about him was different that I had to pause to take it all […]

    November 11, 2013
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  23. said:

    Love this post…I remember when my youngest (now almost 20) left to school out of town for the first time post -high school. I was so emotional with the good-byes at the airport that I forgot to take pictures! When we were driving home from the airport, that’s all I could say, “We didn’t take a single picture!” As if that would have made the transition easier….but truth is he did great (thank G-d) and we’re proud of him (and mom did well too after a few days…)

    November 19, 2013
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