The Lucky Mom has been in a kind of weird place lately. I’ve had things on my plate and on my mind that have been weighing heavy, and have been avoiding the keyboard out of fear that I’d be bitter. We’ve been making important decisions about education for our kids, about elder care and nursing homes for parents, dealing with a 24/7 construction zone behind our house, handling a crisis with one of our boys, coping with declining property values and a rental market that has us barely breaking even on our previously-profitable rentals, and so on. Small potatoes compared to the woes of some, but a load on The Lucky Mom’s mind.
Since I’m always ready to dispense wisdom to those who ask for it (and occasionally to some who don’t), today I decided to turn the tables on myself, and pretend I was one of The Lucky Mom’s friends who came to her for advice. As I did, I had to prepare myself to be ready to take the advice I was about to give, even if it was tough. And I made a promise that I would find the positive side of each issue, no matter how tough.
This, too, shall pass. I use this one all the time, because of its universal truth. No matter what “it” is, “it” will eventually change. Change is the one thing you can always count on. Whether it’s a bad haircut, or 2 years worth of construction noise, it won’t last forever. And hey, when the new levee is finished, my flood insurance premium may go down. (Smile.)
Perspective: there’s someone out there who wishes she had your problems. I didn’t have to look far for illustrations of this point. Not long ago a friend was excited to announce that her daughter didn’t need another open-heart surgery. Another was pondering how to help her stepson handle his first birthday without his mother. The list is long of friends who are shepherding their kids through much greater ordeals than mine. I can hug and kiss my boy and soften his blow. I need to quit making such a big deal out of it. Then he will probably do the same.
Keep the faith. Another universal truth. As a woman of faith, I believe that God’s plan for me doesn’t skip any details. I believe that all the experiences of my life contribute to the plan that He has for me. Even if they seem difficult. Even if I don’t understand. I have an enviable life. I need to remember that more often.
So after a little positive self-talk, I feel better. I’ll embrace the coming Spring, noticing the new leaves instead of the pollen, the green grass instead of the weeds. After all, we’re in the heart of lacrosse season (my fav!) and crawfish are just around the corner. So what was I worried about?????